Quotes by Doug Hembruff

"Strength of character & good self-worth comes from having the ability to do something wrong, or mean, or hurtful, or unfair, but choosing not to, especially when nobody will ever know that you took the high road."

"Threats should be the absolute measure of last resort, only to be used when nothing else works & then only if appropriate & legal, not the first thing you start out with. A Bully starts out with a threat."

"When you do finally have to make a threat, make sure you have the capability to carry it out & the desire. Never make a threat unless you plan on carrying it out & unless the threat is an appropriate, measured & legal response. Always be prepared to be reasonable if the other person shows a willingness to negotiate or try to comply."

"Maturity is finally realizing that you can't always bail other people out of their mistakes & bad habits, that you can't always rescue them from their own stupidity or lack of willingness to change."

"True apologies come from people who intend to change their behaviour next time, acknowledge that there was poor behaviour & are truly remorseful for having made a mistake."

"You can't make others do what they don't want to do, they have to want to change on their own. You can only try to persuade others to change, you cannot make them change. If you force change on them, they will only revert back once the pressure to change has been removed."

"There is no way anybody can give their full heart to an intimate partner when parts of the heart are still out there a bit connected to past lovers. Cut those soul strings so you can move on."

"Most emotionally healthy people want to find a decent partner they can be mostly satisfied with (80% or better) & then give their all to make it work."

"None of us is an island, we can all use some love, understanding, help & a soft place to fall. Be a good friend to somebody."

"Those who are made to be accountable for their actions or think they might be, don't usually abuse their power."

"A word of explanation usually goes a long way."

"One of the greatest sources of disappointment is unmet expectations. Therefore, learn to lower your expectations, or at least have realistic expectations."

"Solutions to major ongoing problems don't usually come from the organization that created the problem."

"Worry is our enemy & optimism is the key to happiness."