Quotes by Doug Hembruff
"Strength of character & good self-worth comes from having the
ability to do something wrong, or mean, or hurtful, or unfair, but choosing
not to, especially when nobody will ever know that you took the high road."
"The character of a man is revealed when he does not do bad things that he could probably get away with."
"Threats should be the absolute measure of last resort, only to be used
when nothing else works & then only if appropriate & legal, not the
first thing you start out with. A Bully starts out with a threat."
"When you do finally have to make a threat, make sure you have the capability
to carry it out & the desire. Never make a threat unless you plan on carrying
it out & unless the threat is an appropriate, measured & legal response.
Always be prepared to be reasonable if the other person shows a willingness
to negotiate or try to comply."
"Maturity is finally realizing that you can't always bail other people
out of their mistakes & bad habits, that you can't always rescue them from
their own stupidity or lack of willingness to change."
"True apologies come from people who intend to change their behaviour
next time, acknowledge that there was poor behaviour & are truly remorseful
for having made a mistake." The biblical meaning of repentance is to turn around, and start a new path.
"You can't make others do what they don't want to do, they have to want
to change on their own. You can only try to persuade others to change,
you cannot make them change. If you force change on them by controlling behaviour, they will only revert
back once the pressure to change has been removed."
"There is no way anybody can give their full heart to an intimate partner
when parts of the heart are still out there a bit connected to past lovers.
Cut those soul strings so you can move on."
"Most emotionally healthy people want to find a decent partner they can
be mostly satisfied with (80% or better) & then give their all to make it
work."
"None of us is an island, we can all use some love, understanding, help
& a soft place to fall. Be a good friend to somebody."
"Those
who are made to be accountable for their actions or think they might be, don't
usually abuse their power."
"A
word of explanation usually goes a long way."
"One
of the greatest sources of disappointment is unmet expectations. Therefore,
learn to lower your expectations, or at least have realistic expectations."
"Solutions
to major ongoing problems don't usually come from the organization that created
the problem."
"Worry
is our enemy & optimism is the key to happiness."
"The judicial and political systems are confrontational, adversarial, slow moving, inefficient & self serving, rather than collaborative, proactive, solutions oriented, holistic & fairly balanced. Small wonder, since it's the same type of people who run both."
"Socialism is Christian Capitalism, where the rights & opportunities of the "least amongst us", are protected from unequal access."
"What you do not say, is often more important that what you do say."
"No accountability = abuse of power."
"Confusion, chaos, apathy, & disinformation are the enemies of peace."
"The more perceived importance a person has, the less likely it is their rights will be violated."
"People who want credibility do not practice anonymity."
"Rights belong to the people not the government, the government has no rights of its own."
"How you use the extra time on your hands, illustrates what is important to you."
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